Everyone has heard of the phrase ‘Love yourself before anyone loves you’. Or ‘We need to love ourselves before we can love anybody’. Yes we can relate to Justin Bieber’s song, Love Yourself but there is more to it than just that. We may want a man to show us love and make us feel loved and then we have in our minds that we need them to love one’s self but that is missing one great truth. We need to distinguish between a man loving us compared to loving ourselves.
When people start to love themselves more each day, it’s amazing how their lives get better. They feel better. They get the jobs they want. They have the money they need. Their relationships either improve, or the negative ones dissolve and new ones begin. It is not selfish to love ourselves. It clears us so that we can love ourselves enough to love other people. We can help the planet when we come from a space of great love and joy on an individual basis.
Love is a deep appreciation. It is about having a deep appreciation for who we are. We accept all the different parts of ourselves—our little peculiarities, the embarrassments, the things we may not do so well, and all the wonderful qualities we have and cherishing them.
You are in charge of your own life and only you can control yourself. No one has the power to change you or make you love yourself and even if you feel they do, it is all in your mind and it won’t last. It is only a temporary feeling. If you are not willing to love yourself today, then you are not going to love yourself tomorrow, because whatever excuse you have today, you’ll still have tomorrow. Maybe you’ll have the same excuse 20 years from now, and even leave this lifetime holding on to the same excuse.
We may lose weight and love ourselves more but that shouldn’t be the case, it should be loving within that counts more and makes you who you are. Love is something we can choose, the same way we choose anger, or hate, or sadness. We can choose to forgive someone who has hurt us and begin to finally heal. We can choose to be grateful for what we have. We can choose love. It’s always a choice within us. So now make the choice to love yourself.